Why your Friends get upset when you offered advice

We love talking to friends!

And friends talk to us to unload their problems, and we also do to them.

But sometimes, offering advice can sometimes bring more harm than good.

Here are some things to take note of:

You may think that you already heard all of your friend’s stories and are able to grasp the whole picture already, but is that all?

Of course, not! Why?

Your friend will only tell you what she wants to tell you or what she only perceives. In this way, offering advice may be risky at all.

Solution:

Grasp the whole picture.
Ask details. Know the facts. Do not just rely on your friend’s emotional state. Clarify things. Put yourself in your friend’s shoes or to everyone who might be involved in the situation. Weigh things out. If you are already confident enough that you know everything, you may start giving advices.

When someone opens up their problems to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are asking for your advice, sometimes they already know the answer to their problems.

Most of the time, they just want to unload their burdens or want someone to listen.

Solution:

Just Listen. Match the person’s mood and relate to them. The person will feel great and you would be thanked a lot.

Counselling and Guidance psychologists studied to a great extent to be able to guide people properly. They don’t just give advice without relying on experience and research.

If you think your friend needs professional help, maybe, you want to refer them to one, eh?

With these things in mind, you could now be mindful of dealing with other people’s situations and act on them appropriately.

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