How to feel more deserving and worthy

It hasn’t been long since we’ve started treating mental health as seriously as physical health, however, there’s still much to wish for in the ever-developing field. One of the major setbacks of therapy is the lack of it. Or rather, the never-ending waiting lists and a failed match of a counselor to the individual seeking help. When everyone tells you need to see a therapist and private therapy doesn’t feel like a good option, it can feel like there’s no one to help you.

When you feel undeserving, this can make the feeling grow deeper. Who do you turn to for help when you feel like you don’t know if you even deserve to ask for it?

That’s why I’m here to help you.

Yes, you heard me right. No, I’m no therapist, I am no miracle maker. But as someone, who has dragged themselves out of the deepest ends of feeling like I don’t deserve happiness, other people, food, or even the air we breathe, I think I may have the tools to help you look in the mirror and feel worthy.

Okay, the real question is: “Is it worth it?” Ironic, right? It may not feel like there’s anything you can do about it, but you have to work through to feel better and raise your self-esteem.

According to research, low self-esteem has been shown to go hand in hand with numerous negative outcomes, like depression (Silverstone and Salsali, 2003), but also means being more troubled by failure, tending to exaggerate events as more negative than they really are (Ronsenberg and Owen, 2001).

In simple terms, low self-esteem doesn’t end on the individual, though it often feels like it. It can have an impact on relationships, performance in school or work, or the overall idea of growth and improvement.

Because you believe you don’t deserve any positivity in those areas, you let yourself into the negativity. It’s not the way to go.

Even if you don’t believe it yet, you are worthy. You deserve things similarly to other people, especially the ones you need to live. Would you tell a loved one they don’t deserve happiness? That they don’t deserve love, other people, success, money, or life?

Would you tell a 5-year-old child that they are unworthy? How about if that 5-year-old child was the younger you?

Building up self-worth can be a long, daunting task, that takes mountainous efforts. It took me a few years of therapy which didn’t help, but ended up as my biggest motivation to find a way to help…

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